Rachel Gojer, Leadership & Team Coach

rachel@rachelgojer.com

Rachel Gojer is a Leadership and Team Coach who works with high-achieving individuals and teams. She helps her clients to stay focused, manage overwhelm and move ahead with confidence and power. She has worked with CEOs, Executives and Entrepreneurs globally to help them create their unique success formula and stay on top of their game. Before becoming a Coach, she worked for 14 years as a Technology and Business Leader.

One of the easiest ways to manage mental health and well-being is to build some self-care practices and routines into your day. Most of us are well aware of at least some of these practices, like regular exercise, meditation, sleep, indulging in hobbies, spending time with friends and family, travelling and taking time off.

Regular self-care ensures that we are giving our minds and bodies ways to process emotions and information. Self-care also allows us to recover from physical, emotional and mental fatigue. It allows us to build resilience and to stay focussed.

The challenge with most of our lives today is that we are always pressed for time. And all of the self-care practices are good at times when our schedules are easy to manage and we have time on our hands.

But for most of us, when the workload increases, our focus on self-care goes down.
Some of us may also be balancing a lot of personal and professional priorities, and that inevitably means that we don’t have enough time for ourselves. At moments like this, it may also feel that taking time for self-care is selfish because you could be doing so many more important things at that time.

And this is not surprising because most self-care practices require time and energy. And when we are busy and don’t have time or energy the easiest thing to let go of are these self-care practices that help us take care of ourselves.

The unfortunate paradox is that our busy and stressful times are when we need self-care the most. This is because it is during our busy and stressful times that we are using our mental, emotional and physical resources the most. We are in a constant depleted state. So, we need to have ways to be able to balance and build our energies.

Think of your energy reserve as a bank account. You need to deposit money to be able to withdraw it.

Sometimes, we convince ourselves that we don’t need self-care because we are “strong” and resilient. And perhaps many of us can keep going for some time. But eventually, the wear will show up in the form of fatigue, a drop in performance quality or burnout.
Self-care is your prevention from all of the above. And prioritizing yourself is not selfish.
But how do you find time for self-care when you are super BUSY?

An easy way is to have a list of self-care practices that take < 5 minutes and minimal effort.
I like to think of these as the pitstops that Formula One cars make for refuelling and tyre changes. The stops are quick, but they ensure that the car can keep going.

Here are some of my go-to ideas for quick and easy self-care, but just because they take less time and effort does not mean they aren’t effective.

  1. Sip a warm beverage slowly and listen to your favourite song: As simple as this sounds, it is a great way to engage your senses. The beverage engages your taste, and the warmth of the liquid calms your gut nerves. Music is a great way to change your energy state. And depending on what state you need to listen to music that energizes you. Or calms you. Or takes you on a pleasant trip down memory lane.
  2. Breathwork: Close your eyes and bring your attention to your breath. Start to count your breath backwards from 50-1. Breathe in at an even number and breathe out at an odd number. This is a short-form meditation that allows you to centre yourself and bring your energy to a more calming and focused state. It does not take more than 2 minutes, and it leaves you in a more present and calm state.
  3. Make a list: Lists are a great way to organize the many thoughts and actions running in your mind. It helps the brain organize information and take the pressure off from remembering everything. Sometimes, ticking off the actions on the list also creates a sense of achievement, which is a positive signal to the brain. It also helps you to acknowledge the progress you have made.
  4. Engage your senses: Take a few deep breaths. Now focus on three things that you can hear. These could be sounds close to you or far. Notice them. Become aware of them. Hold these in your attention. Now focus on three things you can see. These could be things close to you or far from you. Observe them. Become aware of them. Hold these in your attention along with the sounds. Now focus on three things you can feel. These could be your clothes, the taste in your mouth, the feeling of the ground below you or perhaps something you are holding in your hand. Observe them. Hold them in your attention along with the sounds and visual objects for 5-10 seconds before bringing your attention back to the room. This exercise allows your mind a quick break and to refresh its focus
  5. Stretch: Stress tends to make us constrict our bodies. This tightens the muscles and limits the energy flow in our bodies. Stand up and stretch your arms as high as you can. Hold for 10 seconds. Now open your arms and stretch them wide and back to the extent you can. Hold for 10 seconds. Building a stretching routine that you can do every 2 hours allows you to release stressful energy and open up your energy flow.
  6. Light incense: Or a scented candle. Or a diffuser. Aromatherapy is a great way to find calm amid chaos. So, keep some of your favourite smells close. Lavender, peppermint and green=manium are the best essential oils for calming the mind.

These few quick and simple self-care practices are a great way to ground yourself, focus your mind and take a quick break. Feel free to try them out. If these are some practices that you follow do share them in comments as well.

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